This morning, i woke up at 7am as i had an appointment with NSC to remove my stitch after the makeover last week. The traffic was really bad even at the early morning portion. Everywhere is jam and i was awaiting to enter CTE when an sms came in. Guess what, it is from NSC stating that my doc "EE" is on mc today. "Damn....., woke up so early and this happens."
Hence, i make a detour to TPY near my wifey's working place where this 2-storeys market was sited. There was this authentic shop by the corner that specialized in "Bao making" and i got myself a fan-choy and 2 siew mais. Well, it was very tasteful and nice. The rice had absorb the fragrant of the marinade sauce and it is definitely a way to start a bland new day.
Remember to go and try it!
Hungry WenRong
Monday, March 22, 2010
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Parent's Love for their son
With my wife's profound blog on male and female, it made me recalled an incident when i was a teenage. Come to think of it, this is what can be termed as mental support.
Since young, i grew up in a family where praising was never a habit not matter how well you do. Instead, you will get reprimand for the bad that you performed. This behavior was craved deep inside my shadows never to expected anythings for the good deeds and never to make any mistakes and i can only envy my classmates getting rewards for doing well. All i got was a verbal acknowledge from my dad for scoring 90 marks for mathematics, nothing else was shown on his face not even a smile.
Year passed and i grown into a teenage not to mentioned bearing the burden along with me. There was once that i did badly for one of my tests and as usual, i got the "kaya and butter" session, it was then that i had my last straws. I blasts out at them spilling out all the resent that had built up in my brains all these years. "It isn't fair at all, no matter how well i did in the pass, i never get a single praise from you. And i just need to fail once and i will get a beating, what is this?" My parent replied "Son, you are still small, you will never understand our love for you". Yes, i don't understand at all at that point of time, to me it is just loads of rubbish.
Soon after the incident, i was never interested in studying again so much so that i ended up repeating my secondary 3. My dad was made to see the vice-president regarding this. Earlier that morning, he drove me to the school. It was silent in the car, no one talked and in my mind, i was wondering how am i going to die back at home later. Will it be belt, hanger, feather duster or cane? Things worsen when my classmate whom i meet outside the office told me that he is happy to see me next time and we will be in the same class. I don't dare to look at my dad keeping my head low. After the session, he never uttered any single word, he fetched me home and left. I can still vividly remembered the disappointed look on his face until today. My mum was equally disappointed, but since she make sure that i had enough to eat and my daily lift is well taken care of. Guilt filled my heart and mind from that day onwards and i swear that i will never let them be disappointed again.
For the repeated year, i cut all nonsense activities and studied hard and my hard work was pay off, i managed to achieve very good result in the class. Upon getting the result, i rushed home to show it to them and they were happier. At that time, even a simple verbal acknowledgment is more than enough for me, let alone a smile on their face. That was the turning point in my life. And slowly i get to learned that they were actually praising about me to the relative all the while, it is just my ignorance not to notice it. They were always proud of me no matter what i have done.
This is how i realized that not all things need to be measure, parent love for their son need not be determined by how many praise or gifts they get. It is the support and care that really matters. And if my parent were to ask me the same old question again "I can proudly reply them that i had understand how much they loved me and i am proud to be their son"
Since young, i grew up in a family where praising was never a habit not matter how well you do. Instead, you will get reprimand for the bad that you performed. This behavior was craved deep inside my shadows never to expected anythings for the good deeds and never to make any mistakes and i can only envy my classmates getting rewards for doing well. All i got was a verbal acknowledge from my dad for scoring 90 marks for mathematics, nothing else was shown on his face not even a smile.
Year passed and i grown into a teenage not to mentioned bearing the burden along with me. There was once that i did badly for one of my tests and as usual, i got the "kaya and butter" session, it was then that i had my last straws. I blasts out at them spilling out all the resent that had built up in my brains all these years. "It isn't fair at all, no matter how well i did in the pass, i never get a single praise from you. And i just need to fail once and i will get a beating, what is this?" My parent replied "Son, you are still small, you will never understand our love for you". Yes, i don't understand at all at that point of time, to me it is just loads of rubbish.
Soon after the incident, i was never interested in studying again so much so that i ended up repeating my secondary 3. My dad was made to see the vice-president regarding this. Earlier that morning, he drove me to the school. It was silent in the car, no one talked and in my mind, i was wondering how am i going to die back at home later. Will it be belt, hanger, feather duster or cane? Things worsen when my classmate whom i meet outside the office told me that he is happy to see me next time and we will be in the same class. I don't dare to look at my dad keeping my head low. After the session, he never uttered any single word, he fetched me home and left. I can still vividly remembered the disappointed look on his face until today. My mum was equally disappointed, but since she make sure that i had enough to eat and my daily lift is well taken care of. Guilt filled my heart and mind from that day onwards and i swear that i will never let them be disappointed again.
For the repeated year, i cut all nonsense activities and studied hard and my hard work was pay off, i managed to achieve very good result in the class. Upon getting the result, i rushed home to show it to them and they were happier. At that time, even a simple verbal acknowledgment is more than enough for me, let alone a smile on their face. That was the turning point in my life. And slowly i get to learned that they were actually praising about me to the relative all the while, it is just my ignorance not to notice it. They were always proud of me no matter what i have done.
This is how i realized that not all things need to be measure, parent love for their son need not be determined by how many praise or gifts they get. It is the support and care that really matters. And if my parent were to ask me the same old question again "I can proudly reply them that i had understand how much they loved me and i am proud to be their son"
Male VS Female
There are numerous de facto claims that male and female are different. Yes, not only are we different in terms of appearance, we are different mentally too. Recently, i watch a you tube clip by a US Psychologist who explained how brain function in the 2 gender.
This is what was reported. Man's brain is structured logically into boxes, there is a box for car, another for game, 1 for career and the list goes on....These boxes are not linked to one another. When man talk about cars, he will open the car box and everything in it is about cars, never expected us to talk about anything else then car. Female brain is organized in a similar way, the major difference from male is that it is inter-connected. They can talk about shopping and then link it to last year mango sale event where they missed a very good deal and then get emotional etc.....
Now all female out there, take note of this important fact: there is however a special box in male's brain and it is called that "Do-Nothing" box, it is just a box which nothing inside. Once in a while, male will open it up and then what???? Of coz, do nothing la......So next time if you encounter no response from a guy, it means he is in a do-nothing box and forgot to mention "DUN DISTURB".
Based on the brain analogy, this craved out on how we behave and thinks. Just read the following:
Scenario:
Guy always kept stuff to themselves.
Translation:
Female: He is so quite, something must be troubling him. I need to share the load with him.
Male: Don't make her worry, better don't mention it to her else she will be unhappy as i am.
Result:
Female will either pester for an answer from the male or keep wanting to guess what is going on. Male will not spoke a word of his trouble to anyone unless he is ready, he suffered because he wanted to protect what is precious to him and let them remained unharmed.
Analysis
Female wanted to share the load because she loved him. Male suffered in silent because he wanted to protect what he loved.
To female
"Love, trust and support is what really mattered. It does not that you show your support though action or something tangible. Something what is needed is the mental support such as making a cup of hot beverage when he returned, giving him a good massage before turning in works miraculously. Always remember that he will come out of his "cave" when he is ready"
To male
"We always think that keeping the tons of trouble to ourselves can protected our loves one but does it really works? Have you ever thought that it may have harmed them in the process. We have to learn how to care and share after all, 2 brains is better than 1 brains. If you don't wish to speak about it, then make sure that your acting skill is tip-top that it can awarded you an oscar. Open up your heart and don't those who cared worried over your stubborn behavior"
过来人
16-Mar-10
This is what was reported. Man's brain is structured logically into boxes, there is a box for car, another for game, 1 for career and the list goes on....These boxes are not linked to one another. When man talk about cars, he will open the car box and everything in it is about cars, never expected us to talk about anything else then car. Female brain is organized in a similar way, the major difference from male is that it is inter-connected. They can talk about shopping and then link it to last year mango sale event where they missed a very good deal and then get emotional etc.....
Now all female out there, take note of this important fact: there is however a special box in male's brain and it is called that "Do-Nothing" box, it is just a box which nothing inside. Once in a while, male will open it up and then what???? Of coz, do nothing la......So next time if you encounter no response from a guy, it means he is in a do-nothing box and forgot to mention "DUN DISTURB".
Based on the brain analogy, this craved out on how we behave and thinks. Just read the following:
Scenario:
Guy always kept stuff to themselves.
Translation:
Female: He is so quite, something must be troubling him. I need to share the load with him.
Male: Don't make her worry, better don't mention it to her else she will be unhappy as i am.
Result:
Female will either pester for an answer from the male or keep wanting to guess what is going on. Male will not spoke a word of his trouble to anyone unless he is ready, he suffered because he wanted to protect what is precious to him and let them remained unharmed.
Analysis
Female wanted to share the load because she loved him. Male suffered in silent because he wanted to protect what he loved.
To female
"Love, trust and support is what really mattered. It does not that you show your support though action or something tangible. Something what is needed is the mental support such as making a cup of hot beverage when he returned, giving him a good massage before turning in works miraculously. Always remember that he will come out of his "cave" when he is ready"
To male
"We always think that keeping the tons of trouble to ourselves can protected our loves one but does it really works? Have you ever thought that it may have harmed them in the process. We have to learn how to care and share after all, 2 brains is better than 1 brains. If you don't wish to speak about it, then make sure that your acting skill is tip-top that it can awarded you an oscar. Open up your heart and don't those who cared worried over your stubborn behavior"
过来人
16-Mar-10
Thursday, March 11, 2010
10 years checkpoint
In less than 1 month, Cindy and i would have known each other for a decade. Unlikely Cel's case of "12 or 14", it is Cindy who ask me regarding the number of years question. It all started when i made her a photo card and the title stated "Happy 2nd Anniversary", upon seeing that, we started a debate session:
Cindy: "Isn't it suppose to be 9 or 10?"
BS: "10 year is the duration we known each other"
Cindy: "Then if you are calculating based on the day we get married, shouldn't it be our ROM date"
BS: "I remember we agreed upon 2nd of April as our anniversary?"
Cindy: "Then it should be 9 instead of 2 right"
BS: "I am calculating based on our wedding annivesary......"
Cindy: "Still not convinced"
And there was no conclusion to it.......So this demonstrated the difference in the functionality of a male and a female brain. Male separated events into individual entity whereas for female, these entity can be linked to one another.
Well, now we have to decide on a place to spent our anniversary with the additional member of the family "Our precious little Abril".
To be continued......
Hubby
15-Mar-10
Cindy: "Isn't it suppose to be 9 or 10?"
BS: "10 year is the duration we known each other"
Cindy: "Then if you are calculating based on the day we get married, shouldn't it be our ROM date"
BS: "I remember we agreed upon 2nd of April as our anniversary?"
Cindy: "Then it should be 9 instead of 2 right"
BS: "I am calculating based on our wedding annivesary......"
Cindy: "Still not convinced"
And there was no conclusion to it.......So this demonstrated the difference in the functionality of a male and a female brain. Male separated events into individual entity whereas for female, these entity can be linked to one another.
Well, now we have to decide on a place to spent our anniversary with the additional member of the family "Our precious little Abril".
To be continued......
Hubby
15-Mar-10
